Monday, June 18, 2012

A Lovely Wedding for Rosemary and Stephen in the Garden of Fletcher Park!

Rosemary and Stephen knew exactly what they wanted for their wedding when they met with me in February and they made it happen. They are two like-minded, well-matched and determined people! It was fun to get to know them in the process of writing their story for their ceremony. Their paths crossed one Memorial Day weekend a few years ago when Rosemary subbed for Stephen's late night radio show at Stony Brook University's radio station in New York while he went on a composer's retreat. She was working as a park ranger and part-time at the school library and always enjoyed his show. He was in graduate school. He listened to the recording of the show, liked it, and sent Rosemary an email. It was a while before they met in person but when they did, they started going on some fun dates and adventures. It was not long before they decided to become girlfriend and boyfriend.  Then they decided to move to North Carolina, by far the most challenging thing they have faced together. But they stuck together and became even closer to each other through it all by staying focused on being happy in life, despite the circumstances. When they decided to get married, they started planning their wedding. It was to be small, just family and close friends. The Borden Building at Fletcher Park in downtown Raleigh was the perfect spot for them with its beautiful gardens and spacious house for the reception. The wedding date was Saturday, June 9, 2012 at 11:00 AM and the weather could not have been more perfect.
The chairs were set up in the garden nearest the house. The day lilies were in full bloom and the grass so green from all the rain we have had lately.
 
 
The grounds here are gorgeous. I remember about 10 years ago they were re-landscaped and now the plants have matured and are fully grown. It is a little known about place for small weddings. The property is owned by the City of Raleigh and the fee to rent is probably quite reasonable. I do know that they do not allow DJs for the ceremony or the reception because of noise restrictions.
So, Matt Kanon was the perfect musician for their wedding. You can see on this blog that Matt and I see each other quite often at weddings and this year has been exceptional despite the fact that he has moved to Goldsboro. Nevertheless, he loves coming to Raleigh to do weddings.
We did not have a rehearsal and getting the grandparents and parents all lined up in front of the Borden Buidling was my job, then I cued Matt to begin the music while they processed in..
Meanwhile, Stephen and his best man, his brother Eric, and I stood in the wings for our turn to enter.
Our pretty bride watches from the back of the garden waiting her turn after her sister, Megan, our maid of honor, processed in before her.
Rosemary is quite an independent woman and knew without a doubt that she wanted to walk down the aisle unescorted. It fit her and any other way would have felt awkward to her.
 
The ceremony was about 15 minutes long, a collaborative creation between them and me. They chose a quotation written by Victor Hugo and an excerpt from the "Oyster Bed" section of Ann Morrow Lindbergh's Gift From the Sea. Then I shared their story with special paragraphs about why they love each other and want to marry. They made their vows to each other and then exchanged rings.
Following the rings, we closed with a blessing then the pronouncement of marriage!
 The sweet kiss...
 And out they go! 
Rosemary and Stephen, it was an honor to work with you and to officiate your marriage. Thank you for choosing me as your wedding officiant. Congratulations! I know you will be very happy!